Dynamite Domingo!

There is nothing better than Sundays in my Book! I know the majority of the population is ecstatic when Friday is here. After all, it is the end of the dreaded work week and time to have fun! But my new favorite day is Sunday (aka Domingo)! 

You see, as part of my custody agreement, my munchkin leaves me every other weekend from Friday at 7pm to Sunday at 7 pm! UGHHH!!!!!  

And while there are times where I want nothing more than for her continuous yapping and questions to stop, my munchkin is my everything. She keeps me going. She gives me strength. Occasionally, she even causes me to surprise myself with my level of patience! Haha 

But the fact is, that every single weekend she isn't here it's like a mad dash to stay busy until she is with me again! And I'm not kidding! 

Ninety-nine times out of 100 I jam pack my schedule until pickup time so I don't feel alone. BLEH! 

Do any of my other single mama friends out there feel the same way? 

I obviously have days where I have nothing to do but stay home and clean, or go to dinner by myself, and I'm fine.  But give me a full day with nothing to do but think, and we've got problems! It's been over a year with this arrangement and it's still not any easier! 

So like most Sundays, last night I was counting the minutes until she was with me again! I picked her up, polished up her toe nails and nails, like every Sunday night, and sooner than later,she was fast asleep in my arms! Dynamite Domingo's! YEAH! -Cheers! ~SLM

Survival and Madrehood

Broke! Yes, I said it! I'm broke! Sure I enjoy myself with my friends on occasion, buy food, pay the bills, yeah, yeah, yeah! We get it!! 

But seriously, it's the Wednesday before payday, and I probably have $6 to my name. Wow. 

I guess this is what happens when you CHOOSE to have one income. 

It's funny you know, I have a good job, I pay all my bills, have a roof over our heads, but when my daughter asked me if I'd buy her pizza tomorrow, I froze in fright. I wanted to quickly say "Of cooooouuuuurse" and yet in that split second I thought: "I wonder if my mom has $20 she wouldn't mind letting me borrow?"

JUST THEN! I was relieved to remember that she was going to her Dad's tomorrow night! I quickly turned and reminded her. She fortunately was satisfied with my answer. Phew! Dodged a bullet right there! Sheesh! 

But the truth is, it bothered me. It bothered me enough to unsettle my strength. I felt like just for things like this, although there may be times in the future where I may need to say No, I still needed to have a plan, a safety net, so that this wouldn't happen again!

There is clearly nothing I can immediately do to remedy this situation. The fact is, my budget was such, that I knew I would be right where I am at, broke and crawling for my paycheck! 

And yet, I know that come Friday, I'll be ok again. Just like always taking it a week at a time, and sometimes a day at a time. 

But that's it! I don't want to live paycheck to paycheck! I want to have pizza money and maybe even some ice cream money as well! I mean after all, my munchkinator deserves it, and well honestly, I don't want that feeling again. :(

So call it what you may, fear of words, or fear of failure as a mother in my pizza wanting 6 year olds eyes.

Survival is no longer an option! 

I'm moving toward a much more cushioned budget, cause well really, madrehood is more important right now and for god's sakes, my munchkin wants pizza! -Cheers! ~SLM

Dating a la Shallow Mode?

With the expansive list of online dating websites taking the dating world by storm, one has to wonder if the face of dating has changed completely.  One decides that the list of eligible bachelors in their day to day life isn’t well, working out for whatever the reason, and voila! You find yourself signing up for a profile matching machine in hopes that somehow through their numerous subscribers you will find your match, or fish, or cupid in perfect harmony, haha!

Clearly, I have recently finally given into this endeavor and found it a great way of meeting new people. While the quality of people is varied, and the creepers I’ve discussed in posts back continue to creep in here and there, well the fact of the matter is, I have met people outside of my social and professional circles. I guess that was the point right?

However, lucky we may feel, the truth is, most of these sites are just a bunch of people looking at pictures and thinking “Hey she/he looks cute, let me see if we have anything in common!” They then go on to read your profile in which in 100 words or less you have to describe all you are and want to be. All to which they think to themselves, MEH! Sure why not, lets give’er a shot and off the message goes. Sometimes into no response oblivion and sometimes into an awkward conversation about how your luck has been on the site, and how you like it? <-I will never understand this! I’m on here still right! Clearly, NOT GOOD! LOL

Now, I know that there must be attraction initially to have a relationship, and to well, we are all adults here, tingle your hooh or your hah! I get it, I really do.

But then after meeting oh say, 30 plus people you start to wonder if perhaps this approach isn’t quite working out. Because really, the more shallow we get, the lower quality of prospects we get. Of all of the men I have been on dates with, by FAR the ones that were least attractive were the ones with the character that shines through like bursts of sun rays through troves of thunderhead clouds. I can be so dramatic sometimes! HAHA!

But seriously! If what I want is character, why should I limit myself to the guy that looks great with his shirt off!! After all, aren’t we all going to be old and saggy eventually?

I want to find someone who I can grow old with and have substance conversations with, not someone that still thinks that his match is a girl in a size zero dress with fake boobs and an IQ smaller than my 6 year olds. Haha! Sorry no offense to my size one friends!

We all should stop being so damn superficial! Me included! If we did, you might see that someone you overlooked might just be your perfect fish out in that lonely big blue sea! – Cheers! ~SLM

Santa you forgot the Bieber!

Is anyone else feeling as violated by the Holiday Madness? I mean, although I tried my best to ensure that I took things in stride and made sure that I crossed my T’s and dotted my I’s, the fact is, I just went through all the motions and managed to get through it like in years past, just barely!

This year, like the last, I was broke. Now, I clearly don’t mean poverty broke, but if it hadn’t been for the fact that my roommate is letting me borrow her car, and thus I don’t have a rental car payment, there might have been no Christmas for anyone other than my munchkin, really!

We celebrate Christmas and this year, munchkin wasn’t happy that Santa didn’t bring her a bike or a Justin Bieber doll. I have a 6 year old for goodness sakes! I refuse to be sucked into the Disney vortex of teen pop! GRRRRRRRRRR!!!  

We are all adults in my family really, and we all know that even if I hadn’t bought everyone something, well it would have been fine. But you know how it is, you want to make sure that in small token you recognize all that people have given you throughout the year, whether that may be, friendship, emotional stability, or my all-time favorite, judgmental criticism! J

Because well I mean, at least from my family, most of the time, my “support” sometimes comes by way of telling me how I could have done things better. Hey I’m here and a better person right!? That criticism must have helped in some way… I think. Haha!

So after an unproductive Holiday season, I would just like to say, I HATE being unable to purchase everyone I would have liked to, a small token of appreciation. I am such a giver and it sucks not to give.

While I hate resolutions, this year, I want to do a better job of letting people know how much they mean to me, because well quite honestly, can you ever really do that enough?

I hope you all had a fabulous holiday season no matter what you celebrated. Thank you for reading and I promise to give you more this year! Now back to reality, whatever that is…