Men Say the Darndest Things! -Dating Outtakes

“You would be the perfect woman if you weren’t so professional”- SMM, 37 yrs

I'm sorry? Come again? Did he really just say that to me?

This, among other things, have been some of many, many things that have managed to confuse me, mortify me, and honestly, just downright make me die laughing.

Why you ask? Because as I navigate this single mom world of dating, I find myself wondering if I ever will really find someone when they have the audacity to reproach me on such things as my professional goals and ambition!

I was recently talking to one of my close cousins about this, we couldn’t help but laugh and share all the silly things that some men say… because well, men say the darndest things! 

“I just don’t date people like you, you know, tall girls”-SWM, 34ish?

I have no reason to lie. This one, this one just about did it! I was upset! He continued on to tell me how “Tall guys simply like short women.” It was comical. This coming from the tallest and cutest guy in my building, which i was secretly crushing on...ughhh! 

For starters… who says this to another person? “I just don’t date people like you?”

I mean really? Wouldn’t it make you feel like something or someone that is missing something? Dysfunctional, or simply just not enough?

Moreover, what was he exepcting I respond to that?

Honestly though, after spending some thought on it, I took it with a grain of salt. The truth being, I don’t date people like him! Closed minded, superficial people that judge others based on their looks (in this case height) and move on. Not worth my time! Wow!

“I think you are just intimidating, you have your stuff together, guys sometimes aren’t ready for all that” –SMM, 30yrs

Again, what does that even mean!??

Independence is a factor? Is this one of those things that I have to decipher as... what you are REALLY looking for, is a woman who depends on you and doesn’t have it together so that you can come and play the roll of Captain Save-A-Hoe?? LOL

Do you see why i'm confused!?

“Wow! You are so much smarter than I thought!”- SWM, 41yrs.

Oh EM GEEEE really?!?? This one was the kicker for me! This simply evokes pure unadultered laughter! Seriously! Laughter!

Maybe it's because he was older. Perhaps it was because he prejudged me based on what? My blonde hair? My easy going attitude? God Knows what!!! But really? REALLY?

While some of these were clearly meant to be compliments... Part of me has to wonder if they stopped to think what they were saying before they spoke? I would caution to say, no! Lol

All joking aside, Guys, let's think about what we say before we say it!

Better yet, lets focus on important things that matter! You know, like WHO a person is, WHAT they belive in, WHAT they want from a relationship and life!

Not superficial judgements on someone's stature or what their job will mean to you! Or whether you will be the bread winner in the relationship, that DOESNT EVEN EXIST YET! Lol! ((Shaking my Head))

If we were less shallow, more perhaps Real, wouldn't we possibly find a better fit? This reminds me of my "Dating a la Shallow Mode" blog. Its a great read about this topic, if you havent already, check it out!  

But for now, I will continue to collect quotes as I partially dwell on the Tall, Smart, Put Together Professional Woman that I am... Haha! Damn, I guess I am where I want to be ;) -Cheers~SLM