I’m talking about the Post-Baby-Body, otherwise known as PBB. Formerly known as your PRE-BABY body which most new moms will mourn once they see what their body is well, post baby!
Fact is, no matter who you are, Heidi Klum or SLM, your body well just isn’t quite the same for ANY woman after being “with child”.
Even if you fit back in those jeans, or you lose even more weight than what you weighted pre-pregnancy, most women widen out in their waist or hips or sometimes, like in my case, well completely never go back to the way we used to be. #FAIL.
Sometimes when I go out on dates with men, who don’t have children, I have to wonder if they understand what my body looks like underneath my clothes?
Does he understand the possibility of what could be under these clothes?
To be honest, the very thought mortifies me, and unless you are like one or two of my friends, who have Zero stretch marks and sometimes come out even skinnier after their babies, like most women, it becomes our biggest insecurity.
Recently an unnamable friend was telling me how her significant other had yet to see her completely naked in broad daylight because of how embarrassed she felt. Then another told me the same…. I got to thinking…
Is it just the fact that we are so dismayed with the results of what we ended with, or the fact that we aren’t what we used to be? Or both?
In my case my PBB is just not acceptable body shape, I have seen pictures of friends with similar bodies and even after loosing weight and getting in the best shape of their lives, their tummy, well just isn’t the same.
Do men cringe as much as we do when they see us? Personally it takes me soooooooooooo long to be ok with someone seeing me in all of my… FLABBYNESS. THERE I SAID IT!
I hate my PBB not gonna lie, but its mine, and I have to embrace it unless im going under the knife and well lets just say… this SLM is a big wuss… so ill just embrace my rolls and stretch marks. I figure the right man will embrace them too? Ughhhhhh…
Cheers, I think ~ SLM
Cheers, I think ~ SLM
I think you're beautiful just as you are. Having said that - I'm worried about how my body will change once I get pregnant and afterwards! I'm a size 00 so it's quite scary but then I think about how much easier it'll be to buy clothes for a bit (well that's what I think anyway!)
ReplyDelete00 gosh you are tiny Vanisha! I am sure you will be just fine! :) If not, you too will embrace your PBB like the rest of us have ;)
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