With the expansive list of online dating websites taking the dating world by storm, one has to wonder if the face of dating has changed completely. One decides that the list of eligible bachelors in their day to day life isn’t well, working out for whatever the reason, and voila! You find yourself signing up for a profile matching machine in hopes that somehow through their numerous subscribers you will find your match, or fish, or cupid in perfect harmony, haha!
Clearly, I have recently finally given into this endeavor and found it a great way of meeting new people. While the quality of people is varied, and the creepers I’ve discussed in posts back continue to creep in here and there, well the fact of the matter is, I have met people outside of my social and professional circles. I guess that was the point right?
However, lucky we may feel, the truth is, most of these sites are just a bunch of people looking at pictures and thinking “Hey she/he looks cute, let me see if we have anything in common!” They then go on to read your profile in which in 100 words or less you have to describe all you are and want to be. All to which they think to themselves, MEH! Sure why not, lets give’er a shot and off the message goes. Sometimes into no response oblivion and sometimes into an awkward conversation about how your luck has been on the site, and how you like it? <-I will never understand this! I’m on here still right! Clearly, NOT GOOD! LOL
Now, I know that there must be attraction initially to have a relationship, and to well, we are all adults here, tingle your hooh or your hah! I get it, I really do.
But then after meeting oh say, 30 plus people you start to wonder if perhaps this approach isn’t quite working out. Because really, the more shallow we get, the lower quality of prospects we get. Of all of the men I have been on dates with, by FAR the ones that were least attractive were the ones with the character that shines through like bursts of sun rays through troves of thunderhead clouds. I can be so dramatic sometimes! HAHA!
But seriously! If what I want is character, why should I limit myself to the guy that looks great with his shirt off!! After all, aren’t we all going to be old and saggy eventually?
I want to find someone who I can grow old with and have substance conversations with, not someone that still thinks that his match is a girl in a size zero dress with fake boobs and an IQ smaller than my 6 year olds. Haha! Sorry no offense to my size one friends!
We all should stop being so damn superficial! Me included! If we did, you might see that someone you overlooked might just be your perfect fish out in that lonely big blue sea! – Cheers! ~SLM
