Let’s accept it, NO ONE KNOWS!

GOOD GRIEF!

This past Memorial Day weekend, it seemed like I spent the better half of it, talking to my friends about new relationships, lack thereof, and old relationships. Somewhere in there was a trickle of a past romance coming back into my life…shhhh I’m not telling you who just yet….

However, for the most part, the weekend was spent discussing what we could all “Do” to fix things, or move things along, or finally put a close to them.

All of the friends I interacted with are at different points in their relationships, some dating, some in relationships, some waiting for the ring, and some, well really only me, still somewhat dwelling after the last failure.

We all, like typical females, and true to nature, hyper analyzed and dissected what we felt was what the other should or could do. Thinking strategically in order to achieve what, well, what we want, our happily ever after.

We discussed recent books reads on these very topics and the “Man” mentality vs. that of the woman. While some of the strategies and perspectives seemed right on, some seemed almost unrealistic!

“Don’t cook for him until he deserves it!”, “Don’t give him more than he deserves”, “Ask him these five questions!”, the joyyyyyyyyy!   

Then , I got to thinkin’….

NOBODY knows ANYTHING!

The truth is, everyone is unpredictable. People can have “changes of heart” at a moments notice, and for whatever reason. They can “see” what they were losing, “see” what they are gaining, or simply “realize” that what was right before them, was right all along.

Nothing is set in stone. Think about how many times you have changed your mind about somebody? Thus, if these books really offered the fail safe secret to relationships, don’t we think we would have everything figured out by now?

So since we all CLEARLY have no idea what we are doing, I will just continue to read up, take what I like from these Relationship self help books, and continue to be my happy, optimistic, self, and enjoy life until Mr. The One comes into my life… 

until then…~ Cheers Everyone! - SLM

One Tequila, Dos Tequila…Sober

This weekend was a myriad of things. Among them, it was giving, nurturing, warming, delicious, but  mostly sobering.

Yes this blog post is current! Its Monday, early AM and I feel like writing. So here I am, wanting to debrief with you, my friends and followers.  Because, well friends, I spent a magical weekend from Friday – Sunday with none other than my munchkin and my imperfectly perfect family.

Friday I spent it with my best Guy cousin and his wife… they are like a brother and sister, and as we lounged around their kitchen bar drinking glasses of Shiraz and Merlot, and munching on some delicious peach chutney, I couldn’t help but think how lucky I was. How lucky to be able to spend my Friday sharing laughs, memories, and anecdotes of our weeks past. I would catch myself permagrinning when I saw their interaction. Their love, that sometimes they don’t even see, was truly magical. I cheered to them and in my toast reminded them of how lucky they were to have what they have and to still be dedicated to each other. No matter what they have been through.

I had far more planned for Saturday than was feasibly possible. I was back to old SLM behavior of overbooking myself, and I knew I would disappoint some. I however made the decision of taking things in stride for the day and getting as much as I could done. I got to about 20% of what I had planned, but the evening ended with a birthday party for my cousin’s son. It was impromptu, she called me to invite me on Friday, but I couldn’t back out on one of my closest cousins. Last minute we started inviting the whole family and before we knew it, there was more beer and alcohol then we could fathom. We were joking, and laughing, just like good ol’ times. It was majestic.

At one point, my cousin and I had a heart to heart where all that was said was “I love you” but that was all that needed to be said. We both understood the paragraphs of words in those three simple words. We were grateful for having our family around. Grateful, for our children to be playing like we once did. And grateful that we were a family again… grateful.

By Sunday, Father’s Day was upon us and we were all mostly back together at my parents. There was tons of Mariscos (Seafood) like our family always knows best… and family and laughs. The newest member of our family stopped by for a visit, and my daughter held her 3 month old cousin in her arms for the first time.

These moments were nothing short of amazing. Our family was not whole, there were people missing, but the truth is, for these moments, the ones that wanted to be, and could be there… were. I was delighted in their company and felt so blessed to have them in my life. For with their company, I was sobered into remembering that family is everything, and I am so lucky to have mine. 

~Cheers- SLM